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Nobody standing in front of friends and family for the biggest day of their life, expects that it would be anything less than the very BEST – or why sign up at all? So why is it that some marriages flourish whilst others fail?

I’m meeting regularly so many people who feel their marriage is ultimately both hugely disappointing and deeply unsatisfying. I don’t want that to be the case for them. Or you, for that matter. That’s why I wrote this little book. It’s an easy read with some hard-hitting advice learned at the sharp end of life variously as a husband, dad, pastor and police officer.

I’ve sat with and counseled people with relational difficulties since my late teens when I had to pretend to be older and wiser as a ‘copper’ in order to resolve a domestic crisis. I’ve prepared hundreds of couples for marriage and led their services when they have come together in marriage. I’ve sat with them again when it all seems to be coming apart. They often say they know something is missing, but they can’t quantify it. I’ve learned something from those many hard hours in tense rooms. For more than a decade now I’ve been teaching the four easy-to- recall principles in this book that help people take responsibility to invest in their relationship – giving them the BEST possible marriage.

THE B.E.S.T. MARRIAGE

Marriage is a great institution
– but I’m not ready for an institution! Mae West

Many people I speak with have become quite cynical about marriage and are choosing to stay single instead. Others are deciding to get divorced. A whole generation of young people have seen the marriages their parents have got, or had, and decided they don’t want one – ‘Thanks anyway.’ Strangely, the people I meet who are most cynical about marriage are the same ones who get most excited when their sons and daughters announce they are getting married! They don’t seem aware of the apparent contradiction.

What People Want

The fact is most of us still hope for enduring love. We want passionate love, erotic love and intimate love. We ache for friendship, encouragement, compassion – a place where we can love and be loved, know and be known, understand and be understood. Recently I watched a daytime TV programme where couples had been invited to talk about how living together was best for them. They talked about marriage as ‘just a piece of paper,’ until, in a surprise move, a boyfriend got down on one knee and proposed to his girlfriend who, in floods of tears, said, “I thought you’d never ask!”

In every study about the quality of life in which people are asked what they value most, marriage comes first. Relational quality matters ahead of job satisfaction, financial wellbeing and even other close friendships.

This isn’t Barbara Cartland writing. I know marriage doesn’t always work. There is no magic formula for relational remedy if a couple has decided on going in totally opposite directions. But, as the world spins faster and faster, people are realising that they need each other more, not less. There’s a reason life insurance companies treat married people differently – on average you’ll live a lot longer if you’re married. (What do you mean, “It feels like it!”?)

In our often disconnected society, in our crowded, rushed cities, a great marriage can provide a place of refuge from the cut-throat, impersonal world we inhabit. Marriage can provide an oasis in the desert. Marriage can promote good memories from the past and connect us to a bright future. If we’re blessed with children in our marriage, rearing the next generation can help us find purpose, identity and a deep sense of satisfaction.

When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part.

~ George Bernard Shaw, Getting Married